Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Outsiders

In "And Those Who Don't" Esperanza discusses how outsiders see her neighborhood and how she reacts to being an outsider. Write about your experience(s) with outsiders or as an outsider. Consider the new kids at school, newcomers to the neighborhood, visitors from the neighborhood or country. What people, situations, or customs are difficult to understand? Choose words that capture the emotions of being an outsider.

23 Comments:

Blogger mattc said...

I was an outsider and I still am. I just moved in to a new house about three years ago. I don't know many people in my neighborhood. I see my neighbors from time to time. We talk sometimes, but the only words we exchange with each other is hello. When i just moved in I was a little worried that i want know where i was or difficult getting out of the neighborhood. After living there for a few years it has been much easier. then i found out that a couple of my friends lived in my neighborhood and became a little less stressed out and a lot more happier.

12:41 PM  
Blogger Ky K. said...

About five years ago one of my neighbors moved. It took a while for their house to sell, but finally it did. Then some new people moved in. They had two kids, but they were really shy. Not many people really new them. No one would ever see them, except when they would leave the house for something. It had been like five or six weeks and so we decided to go meet them. The next time that we saw them we asked them to come have dinner with us. A few nights later they came and had dinner. After getting to know them they weren't really shy people they just didn't know anybody. Their oldest kid is 12 which is my brothers age and now they are on the same football team. My brother asked him if it was hard moving into the neighborhood, and he said it was lonely, and there was nothing to do until we met you guys.

3:46 PM  
Blogger Lauren L said...

In my life time i have moved 5 times and i know how it feels to be a outsider. Every time i moved i had to deal with leaving my friends the people who lived around me. I would always have to go find new friends and it was really hard. In all the neighborhoods i have lived in, none of them have been as welcoming as the neighborhood i live in now. My neighbors are all close to my age and they are all really cool. We always say hi to each other and hang out sometimes. I have never felt like a outsider in this house but i did in the other houses i lived in.

4:00 PM  
Blogger Hannah J said...

One specific time in my life where I can remember feeling like an outsider was when I moved from Canada to Denver and started in a new school. I didn’t know anyone and the few people I did know had their other friends to be with. I can remember sitting alone at recess with no one to play with or talk to. I felt very different from everyone else and very lonely. The first couple of days were a challenge, but I quickly got close with a group of girls and was friends with them for a long time. This experience made me more aware of outsiders and especially kids who are at a new school.

4:10 PM  
Blogger Joyce B. said...

I travel a lot and all countrys have different customs. Also many countrys have different languages. I have an especialy hard time when I can’t even understand what people are saying. And if I try to get around on subways it is hard to know where I am going if I can’t read the signs. I also know what it is like to feel left out in school especialy in middle school with all the clicks. When I started middle scool it was really scary because only a couple people from my elementary school went to Powell most went to Newton. It ended up being ok because I made new friends and I still am making new friends whenever I get the chance. My dad often has family work partys and often I am the oldest there so I never know what to do. So I end up akwardly standing around waiting for soimthing to do. I think this what it would feel like to be an outsider.

6:04 PM  
Blogger Jason K. said...

I remember when I was an outsider. It was the second time I did 1st grade. I felt so alone and didn't know what to do. it was like i didn't belong. I know how it feels to be new to something thing. I always try to be friends with the new people in school, my neighborhood, or just anywere. It is not fun at all. When your new you don't know poeple and its hard to make friends. Its takes a wile to get used to the area that you go to. People that are new are really lonely. You don't think that you should belong with anyone there.

6:38 PM  
Blogger Colby K said...

I have had both of these experiences. I have experienced being an outsider and have had outsiders come into my neighborhood. It all started when my parents got a divorce. My dad moved to the mountains and my mom stayed in Denver. I moved into a very layed back community in the mountains. There weren't very many kids in the neighborhood until the house nextdoor to mine went for sale and a big family with four boys moved in. One of the kids happened to be my age and we quickly became good friends. After that, we started to casually got to know everyone in the community. Since that house sold, no other houses have gone for sale so there hasn't been any more outsiders. It is difficult to be an outsider. But once you get to know the people in your neighborhood it feels like you belong there and couldn't live anywhere else.

6:48 PM  
Blogger Danielle H. said...

When I was in middle school, I remember one girl in particular had just moved here from another state. She was the shyest person I had ever met and she seemed a little bit weird. Though I bet she felt discouraged by all the new faces. I know personally I would have an empty pit in my stomach from all the friends I had left behind. Then all the new friends I was yet to meet. By the end of the year we were friends, and she wasn't weird at all! I am no longer friends with her but watching her go the experience of a new school, gave me a feeling of what it might feel like. A bundle of emotions overcoming your senses cause you to be unable to speak or even think about the past and future! If one day I move, my terrible nightmare had came true!

7:15 PM  
Blogger Kevin Y said...

On our street we have lived there longer than anybody else. We have had plenty of new neighbors over the years and everytime we don't see the family for serveral weeks and then final we deside to go over there to invite them for dinner. When we do they are always very happy to meet their neighbors. Since they never come out much you would think that they were just shy but they never are. I know how they feel because I have moved once and it is hard. You feel very uncomfortable and out of place. You try to fit in but it is difficult to change the way you live after so many years. Once you get used to things it is a lot easy. You will never feel the same but you do feel like you are apart of something.

8:17 PM  
Blogger Brianne D. said...

I haven't moved before so I don't know what its like to be an outsider in that way, but I have had a lot of friends move away. I always feel sorry for people who move, I know that there is always a chance to find new friends, but I don't think that I could deal with losing my friends and trying to meet new ones. I haven't experienced the extreme of being an outsider but I do understand it a little. For the past three summers I have been going down to southwest Colorado to mission for my church and each year I go to a different town. And you feel like an outsider because the towns are so small and everyone knows each other and they stare at your weird the first time the see you. Words I think of when I hear outsider is foreigner and newcomer.

8:39 PM  
Blogger Sara A. said...

I felt like an outsider when I first moved here from California. The schools in California were outside and we didn't have lockers because we didn't have to move, the teachers did. My first day I was overwhelmed by all of the new things that I wasn't exposed to before. I had a new locker and I was expected to open it everyday, even though I had never opened a lock in my life. I also had to move around from class to class. I remember one Wednesday when we used to have "Faith Families." I didn't know where I was supposed to go, and for some stupid reason I went outside and got locked out. I finally got into my school again after trying to find my way around and I learned never to go outside again. As time went by I eventually learned how to do the things that I was never exposed to before. Now I am able to open lockers and move from class to class.

8:45 PM  
Blogger Jenna F said...

All my life I have bounced from one group of friends to another. I have had only a couple true friends that i have stayed with over the years. We are the outsiders. Just a tiny group of friends that are connected to everybody but aren't really their friends. we are on friendly terms. With these connections we stay connected to what is new in the world of junior high. When we reached 9th grade that all changed. I became a part of a group. For the first time I have more true friends than I can count. I went from being an outsider with no friends to being surrounded by people who care about me. I love the feeling of being accepted. As an outsider you are always watching things happen as if you are in a dream. You see everyone having play fights with their friends and encouraging eachother and you feel almost complete emptiness. It hurts so much that you end up simling to show how "fine" you are. Now I don't have to worry about it. I just stick with my friends and my life stays happy. Life is more fun with friends.

8:59 PM  
Blogger KYLE S said...

When i first moved to littleton from parker i felt like an outsider on the first time i was on the bus. I was a 4 grader and didnt know anyone but a naghbior kid let me in from the outside and i felt alot more welcome and him and i grew to be great friends but arent realy anymore but he was still my first friend in littleton.

9:08 PM  
Blogger Adam T said...

I remember once being an outsider. I remember how I was unsure if I would fit in. I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be in this place. But it was a new soccer team, and I made the team. I was a pretty good player, but I didn’t really know anyone else. Each of the other players had friends on the team, and they didn’t really seem to accept new people into their groups. This made me a little uncomfortable. I remember that early feeling. I was only 10 years old at the time. But over a very short time, I made new friends and my feelings passed.

9:09 PM  
Blogger Kelsey W said...

I have had my time where I was an outsider and then again I have been an insider. I used to live in a not so wealthy neighborhood and felt kind of out of place. Now I live in a neighborhood where everybody knows everybody and we are like one big happy family. I have moved from place to place and in some neighborhoods I felt lonely and like I could only depend on family and previous friends. I defiantly know how it feels to be an outsider.

9:48 PM  
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9:53 PM  
Blogger Tabitha M said...

When I made Varsity Cheers I had no friends on the team and knew no one. They had a huge sleepover one night, and I knew no one. I just stood in the corner wishing someone would be my friend and that I didn't have to be scared.

10:01 PM  
Blogger max l said...

i my life i have never really felt like an outsider, but i have helped thoes who have felt like one because i have sympathy for thoes kinds of people. At my old school there were a lot of who came to my school, and i tried to help them and be as nice a possible because that is what i would want done for me. There was this one particular kid that came when i was in 7th grade,l he was kind of strange and he was really quiet. One day i saw him in the hallway and he looked kind of confused so i helped him find what he needed. I did not talk to him on a regular basis but when i would see him in the halls i would smile at him or say hi, because i would want someone to do the same for me. I still always feel sorry for these kids because you never know their story. So a lot of people can learn a lesson from this to be nice to newcomers because they are lonely and in a new place so it is good to be nice to them.

10:01 PM  
Blogger rachelb said...

I haven't really experineced a lot of change. I have never moved or switched schools. The hardest thing for me was when I was on a volleyball team where i knew nobody. It wasnt easy because all the girls had thier friends and didnt want or need anybody else. They were mean the whole season to a girl on our team who nobody else knew. The first practice I was all alone and it felt very akward. I never really enjoyed that season.

10:16 PM  
Blogger Jared D said...

I remember walking into the first day of speed camp. Being one of the first people there it wasw me a few freinds and a bunch of varsity football guys. Talk about out of place. I still feel that way though around the varsity guys. They just look like royalty to me.

10:32 PM  
Blogger morganh said...

I know that there was a time when i felt like an outsider and it wasn't to long ago either. It was when i came to Arapahoe high school. I had come from a privet middle school where i had known practicaly everyone for my entire life. Then when i came to Arapahoe i knew just a couple people. But cheerleading was a big help. Sure it was difficult at times and sometimes it still is hard but you just have to work throught it and have a positive attitude toward it and everything will work out just fine. Once you meet a couple friends then it just beomes easier to make alot of new friends!

10:42 PM  
Blogger morganh said...

I know how it feels to be an outsider. I still am kinda one. this is my story. When i decided to make the decison to go to Arapahoe i had to leave all of my friends that i had known forever and made such good memories with back and denver christian, and kinda start all over again. It was really hard at first, but one thing that really helped me out was the fact that i was in cheerleading! It lead me to meet many people. Then when i was friends with those people i became friends with their friends, and so on. So just keep a positive attitude and everything will be all good.

10:46 PM  
Blogger tyler said...

I was an outsider once but once I made friends it all strated to become better. When new people move in I greet them like other people greeted me. My mission is to make people happy like I was happy before.

7:18 AM  

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